Much of my counselling and psychotherapy work over the last 30 years has been with young adults (clients aged between 18 and 35). The core of this work is captured by REM’s lyrics reprinted below; the song will resonate not only with young adults who may be experiencing difficulties in their lives and who are looking for help, but also to their parents, families, partners and friends who may be affected by these difficulties and who may be struggling to know how to help.
“Everybody Hurts”
When your day is long
And the night, the night is yours alone
When you’re sure you’ve had enough
Of this life, well hang on
Don’t let yourself go
‘Cause everybody cries
And everybody hurts sometimes
I believe the words above address the sense of the despair, hopelessness, loneliness and confusion which many of us older adults recognise through our own experiences as young adults. Today - more than ever before – I worry that the day to day life of the majority of young people is encapsulated by ‘Everybody Hurts’ in a social media world where photos of happy people and vacuous self-referential comments become the mainstay of social life.